Ladies and Gentlemen, we are engaged in a Civil War.  A Civil War fought not with guns and knives or sword and 50 calibre shells, but with the very foundation upon which every battle and dispute recorded by man has utilised in order to gain the upperhand.


I speak of strategy and deception, and the war is the 'Battle of the Sexes'. In this age of freedom, more than any other time that I have read about in history men and women are confused as to what they want in a partner (or partners) how best to go about it, and most importantly WHY they desire those attributes in a prospective partner. 

The amusing thing is that the underlying goal(s) and the desires that create them are exactly the same as they have been for thousands of years. What HAS changed is the society we live in, the technology we now have available and the information we are able to share so easily in this free and supposedly “liberated” age. I may expand upon the above in another piece but this particular article is about a strategy and methodology that is based on a unified theory that is applied to the 'dating game'; a game which should fundamentally have the ultimate goal of MANAGING your friendships and partner(s) fairly, responsibly and when required ruthlessly. 

What is a unified theory? A unified theory is a rule or principle that, when applied to a particular set of situational variables, always produces consistent and repeatable results. Having an outcome that you are attempting to achieve without a unified theory is like having a jigsaw puzzle without the picture that shows what peices are “supposed” to go where. You can figure it out with time and plenty of patience but you will usually get frustrated with the time it takes. And after all that work you might not even like the picture that develops as a result. Quite often even as you see it develop you ignore your instincts and follow it through to the bitter end, perhaps even fooling yourself that the endeavour was worth it. So, you must always keep in mind what you want, what you will compromise on, and more importantly what you won’t.


I hope my example makes sense fellas! The puzzle is the female you are interested in, and the picture is the outcome you are trying to achieve BEFORE you’ve even picked up the box of jigsaw pieces. So whilst your figuring out the woman that your choosing to put time and energy into by chilling with her, you will know what to do once the picture that's forming doesn’t fit the one in your minds eye; you can stop wasting her time and your own and keep it moving.Trust me, you’ll be doing her a BIIIIIG favour!

Ok, now I have a question for you and the answer will force you to abandon much of what you know and understand about what women want. Remember, much of what we understand about the fairer sex is told to us by the media, so called experts, many of whom are earning money from the information they give (information that may touch upon issues without exploring the underlying ones, thus ensuring they are continually profiting from your confusion) or WOMEN THEMSELVES! When finding a “good” (whatever that means) woman is like finding a needle in a haystack, how do you find a needle in a haystack?......  think about it?..............        do you have your answer?..........         hold onto it for a second while I back-track, now.....  Many of you fellas out there DONT EVEN HAVE A HAYSTACK!!!!!!.......So if you don’t have at least 3-4 women you're talking to, and who you find interesting right now, you better just save this page on your favourites and start getting your social game up to par.

So you're out there campaigning for females and getting voters, and a number of them have decided that you're cool enough to donate some of their time to hang with you. Now you’ve got their interest how do you decide who is “The One”? How do you separate the time-wasters from the ones who are genuine? It's easy. When you want to find a needle in a haystack the answer is both simple and devastatingly satisfying; you Burn the Haystack! You don’t sort through each individual peice of hay to find out if its a needle, you don't give each woman ALL of your attention, you put forward your 50% then do what YOU want to do, be yourself!  The females who like and respect you enough AND share common interests with YOU will stick around. The ones who don't will get off the train. You must also remember, a woman will almost always accept and enjoy the attention you give her, even if she doesn’t like you! 

Another question for the guys; how often have you been told “Lets just be friends”.....I know I have! What usually happens in this instance is she will expect you to give her the same level of attention as you did before she effectively told you she doesnt like you. Thus, she will get the attention she wants from you, with none of the commitment, if she truly wants to be a friend then you must be disciplined enough to treat her that way. Keep looking around and building your haystack up and burning it. Keep the needles (Co-operative Females) and let the ladies who can’t keep up with you fall back and fade away.


This may seem harsh to many men and women, but lets be honest for a second, so long as you make yourself available to her when she wants you and at short notice (something men do when they genuinely like someone) pandering to her every whim, and treating her like a queen or goddess (The way they “SAY” they want to be treated”) she will NEVER feel the need to take a step forwards, because she has you at her beck and call. This is where the unified theory of Burning the Haystack really comes into its own.


Understand that you can’t “make” or “trick”  a woman into liking you, she either does or she doesn’t. With this understood you simply inform the ones you are interested in that your interested, and see if they take a step towards you, see if they co-operate with you with regards to spending time together. And the ones that don’t co-operate or can’t keep up with the moves that YOU make will have proven themselves to be a piece of straw in the haystack and be consumed by the flames.


For the ladies reading this it is important to note that one man's piece of straw is another man's needle so to speak. But using this unified theory allows a man to manage his relationships better, which will actually make things easier for YOU. It's a two way street, so if you ain’t feeling the guy anymore and you aint putting in your 50%, he’ll see the “truth” that you just aint into him and spend time with people who are. Leaving you free to get approached by someone you hopefully do like and respect and who respects you also.

One last thing on Burning the Haystack that you should remember. So long as your not a stalker or an axe murderer a woman will almost always accept the attention you give her, sometimes even if she's got a partner. So it's YOUR responsibility to MANAGE your friendships and relationships. Get rid of those people who take what you offer, but give back nothing in return, and be co-operative with  those people who you like and who truly value you for the person you are. The possibilility and probability that one of the females in that crowd is the one who values you enough to step forward out of the crowd and choose you is high indeed.

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